For more information visit these links:
Crime Victims Treatment Center (New York City)
William Alanson White Institute (New York City)
Teen Victim Project
SNAP (Victims of priests)
Awareness Center (Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse)
Dr. Jim Hopper (Noted researcher)
Merle James Yost LMFC (Therapist)
Rommell Washington MSW, LCSW (Support group facilitator)
Dr. Richard Gartner (Psychologist, author)
Dr. Gartner Book Titles on Amazon:
John Oarc (Rape survivor, author)
Oarc's Book Title on Amazon
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"...I really just want them to already be sexually active so we can both enjoy and relax together."
Len from New York City
"I also tried to better myself and get my college degree. I believed that if I appeared to be in control or doing good for myself I could gain respect and just maybe become human once more."
John Oarc from Louisiana
Boys, Men on Craigslist.org
While craigslist.org has a posting policy forbidding content, which is abusive to minors or that is pornographic, Think & Ask reviewed the location from where Len posts and applies to personals for sex.
Under Men Seeking Men, the first page stated that by entering the forum the reader is at least 18 years of age, and that the reader may be finding personal messages that have sexual content.
No login is required on craigslist, but before a message appears, the poster must approve the advertisement from their e-mail inbox.
For the New York City board on 8 October 2006 the very first ad read: "Young guy wanted...not older than 22." It was assumed in slang (fifty favors,) from the ad posted by someone listing there age as 30, from Williamsburg (Brooklyn,) that the recipient would receive $50.
Another ad from Chelsea (Manhattan) was posted by "2 guys hanging at home" and they were looking for a "boi" younger than 18-years old.
Len said the operative word was usually twink when looking on craigslist.org. Typing the word into craigslist search resulted in two pages of results -- 47 ads had been posted in the past 48 hours on 8 October with the keyword twink. Craigslist keeps ads for 7 days unless one is flagged by users or removed by the original poster.
In scanning the results of "twink" for searchers and from posters alike -- titles of ads included spanking, executive-type looking for a boy, master trainee, slave, wrestler, dad and son play, married guy seeks boy, anal or oral intercourse (in four-letter-word slang,) and 'getting together Foley style' in reference to former Congressman Mark Foley. (Foley resigned his post following admission of sending inappropriate instant messages to minors 10 days before this data was collected.)
| "...All I can say is
there is no greater
guilt for a mother to know she
failed to protect her son from one of these predators."
Brad's mother from Westchester County, NY
"Some boys whether rightly or wrongly think their parents will judge them."
"A parent's first reaction say...'Why did you let this happen?' is an inappropriate response for 12-year-old boy and places the responsibility for the molest on the boy."
Dr. Richard Gartner, New York
"...It is emotional. Men are classically good at burying their feelings, and yes, watching [Mysterious Skin] may upset them.
"But so what?
"It may give them the opportunity to seek the help they need."
Merle Yost, LMFC, Oakland, CA
"The guys ask in the group, 'How many perps are hetero or homosexual?'"
"They want to know, and there is not enough research to accommodate their request."
Rommell Washington, MSW-LCSW, New York
"Gays are more likely to get married as a result of the cycle they encounter after the childhood abuse.
"The longer they are in the marriage and realize nothing has changed, there is eventually a blow up which forces change...or they become completely withdrawn from the marriage and self."
Merle Yost, LMFC, Oakland, CA
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